Today marks three months since we arrived in England; one quarter of our year gone already. It also seems to have marked a transition for all of us as we acclimatize to living somewhere new.
While things still feel fairly new here, I think we’ve all started to build some friendships that have made us feel more settled in now. Connie and Heidi are doing really well at school and have made friends quickly, as you are always likely to do when you’re with people 6 hours a day. It has already eased the feeling of missing home and created more difficulty in the question we ultimately have to answer – should we stay in England or return to Vancouver?
I think that the best we can hope for is that this decision is difficult, for all of us. It means that either option has its good points and its bad points. I also think it’s a good thing in your life to be challenged with things like this. It takes you out of your comfort zone; it makes you realize that you can be happy in different places. It also establishes the things that are really important in your life; there are things you realize you can go without. And I think it brings into focus how important people and relationships are to you.
I’ve made big moves before. What makes this situation more unique is that we’ve moved to a place where we don’t really know anyone, and there’s not an established community of individuals in the same situation (ie. university). It’s been great to have Rachel’s side of the family closer by, but we don’t see them on a day-to-day basis.
I’ve realized how one’s need for friendship is what needs to be replenished, but that doesn’t mean you are “replacing” your friends. But building depth and history takes time, and the people you are getting to know – well they already have their own lives and so initially you’re kind of squeezing in and wondering if they have room for you.
This can be good too though, because it challenges complacency. Also, it’s like having a whole new audience for your jokes – if you move every five years, you only need 5 years worth of material 🙂
And while you miss certain people really deeply; like a bit of you is missing, it does set the table for one of the best things in life: reunions